You know things are not going well for you and your
spouse. Your partner did seem stern, aloof and
resentful that last time you spoke to each other.
Like always you expect them to come around, let go
of the steam and become their normal self with
time. Instead, one day, you come home to find their
clothes missing from their cupboards and a piece
of paper on the dinner table- a divorce notice.
Do you think this scenario could transpire into your
life?
It’s not uncommon that couples start to fight and
make up…fight and make up, until one day they fall
apart for good. Don’t neglect your relationship
issues, you never know, your relationship could be
treading towards rocky roads too!
What are the real top reasons for divorce?
Let’s look at the 10 most common reasons for
divorce and hope that you can learn from the
mistakes of others.
- Lack of COMMUNICATION.
This is one of the major reasons why divorce
happens. Distance is created quickly if you don’t
share your feelings, don’t tell your partner what’s
happening, and keep your feelings to yourself. A
successful relationship constantly keeps the lines of
communication open. - FINANCES.
Money talks and can make your life better or in
some cases worse than you were. If money
becomes a consistent topic of disagreement, the
road to divorce is certain. - Feeling CONSTRAINED.
You may feel your marriage is holding you back
from achieving goals and taking opportunities. If
your partner can’t support you, then they don’t
support the marriage. - TRUST.
Do you really trust your spouse? Trust is one of the
leading factors in having a successful relationship
and marriage. Your marriage is unlikely to survive if
you don’t trust your spouse. - EXPECTATIONS from each other.
When expectations aren’t met, it can put a strain on
the relationship. This leads to a personality conflict
because one or the other spouse won’t bend to
sacrifice their time and comfort.
6. INSECURITY.
Jealousy and insecurity can lead to fights, and
questioning each other’s intentions can put a dent
into trust and your relationship moving forward.
7. RELIGIOUS and CULTURAL differences. Religious
beliefs and cultural values can cause conflict, which
affects the way you live your life and raise your
children. If you aren’t committed to adapting and
practicing these values, this can be an ultimate deal
breaker.
8. ABUSE .
Lastly, if you’ve been in a situation
where your partner has been abusive or controlling
in any manner, discuss this rationally with your
spouse. If need be, contact a trusted family, friend,
or your attorney about this.
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